A Letter to Would-be-Husband

Dear Would-be-Husband,

We are just a few days away from becoming life partners. In these few days of knowing each other, we couldn’t get much opportunity to open up and discuss all that we wanted to. But at least from those few interactions, I could decide that I can spend the rest of my life happily with you.

Just like how every girl goes through this phase of transition from being her daddy’s little girl to someone’s wife, every guy also goes through this and is worried about accepting the many changes that would take place. I totally understand how you feel right now and can relate to you. So all I want to tell you is, we can make a good couple and make each other comfortable if we start our journey as friends. Friendship is one such relation which doesn’t have anything to do with expectations or explanations. So, I feel this would help us in making our journey easy and smooth going.

I heard from my friends that most men are usually worried about one thing before marriage, that is about the bonding that will form between his mother and his wife. I know it’s mostly due to these daily soaps that men fall in such dilemma. But trust me, it doesn’t happen in real life. At least I can assure you that it won’t happen in our case. I have always been very close to my mom. She is my best friend. I have always, since my childhood, seen how my mom and my grandmother have lived together under the same roof for years, without any disputes. They are always happy in each other’s company and they compliment each other very well. Their never-ending conversations, the tasty food they prepare together, the way they support each other in times of difficulty, all these have influenced me greatly. I long for having such a healthy and amazing relationship with your mom. When I leave my home and my mom and come to your home, I wish to make your home, our home and your mom, our mom.

At home, we have a lovely family time every evening when we all sit together and sip hot tea and munch some hot pakoras that both Mom and I prepare together. We have those silly conversations of an imaginative farm house surrounded with paddy fields or buying a ferry and going on a voyage for a long break. This is the best time of the day when we forget about all the worries and relax for a while. I wish to have such bonding with my new family as well, where I can sit and have nice conversations with my in-laws and other family members.

I always wanted to have a big joint family like the one in the movie “Hum Saath Saath Hain” and so that’s one of my favorite movies. I know it is not possible to have such big families in this generation but we can have a cute little family where we, your parents and our kids can stay together and have a wonderful bonding. I believe it is essential to teach kids that family is what will stay with us in all phases of life, good and bad, ups and downs. Family encourages us, protects us yet never becomes judgmental. 

Today as I write to you of what I look forward to in our relationship, I also want to tell you what all I wish to do to make our relationship better and everlasting. As we move forward together in life, we will see and experience many things. Every person faces difficulties at some point in time. I promise I will be with you to support and encourage you and help you swim through it. I promise I will share both your sorrows and joys equally. I will be with you to cry in your pains and also celebrate your success. I promise there won’t be anything like “your” and “mine”, I will treat everything to be “ours”. I promise I will never let you down and will put all my best efforts in leading a peaceful and prosperous life with you.

I am not sure if I can prove to be the best wife ever but I can promise you that I will always put effort to become one. Living with an ideal couple like my Mom and Dad, one thing that I have learnt from them is, having trust and coordination will always make a relationship stronger and fruitful. This is definitely what I yearn to have in our lives as well.

There are yet a lot of things that I want to share with you. But we still have a lifetime to spend together and so I will unfold them slowly. I am looking forward to having an amazing and exciting time with you and your family.

With love,

Your Would-be-Wife

India

The serenity of the cold mountains in the North

The tranquility of the backwaters in the South

The glorious culture and the magnificent monuments in the East

The breathtaking beaches in the West

And the sanctity in the heart of the Country

Clad with the greenery of the flora and fauna

Tempered with the sleekness of the smoky clouds

Her tender lips clinquant red resonating the richness of the soil

The irenic wind breezed her flowy hair imitating the transcendental rivers

The mystical fragrance of her breath elated the dormant spirits

She walked gently on the moist turf embracing every facet

Her soul scintillating, esprit emanating the vitality to every being around

The Mother she is, to the land of beauty, diversity and vivacity – India.

The Shining Star

The clouds aren’t pitch black yet. The Sun hasn’t disappeared totally from the far end yet. The Moon isn’t shining with its complete glory yet. But there is one star in the sky that has already started shining. The only star amidst the gray clouds tinted orange by the valor of the mighty red Sun.

The only star shining in the whole wide sky that does house countless other stars too. It was solus but its grandeur was gilt-edged, something that can’t be left unnoticed.  

I can see it, feel it from some light years apart and I can talk to it as well.

I asked the star, “Why are you the only star shining and visible while there are also jillion other stars in the sky?” 

The star shined brighter. I assumed that it smiled hearing my question. 

I could hear it talk to me. It said, “The sky as it appears to me and the other stars, is dark, tough and angry, thundering at the entire world. We were scared to come out of our places. We were scared that we would get lost in this cosmos. I have spent a major part of my life succumbed to this fear of being lost. One day I saw a star like me shining for the last time as it exploded just to end up in smoke. That day, I gave a deep thought about what my life is meant to be in this voluminous space. Is it to shine and spread my light over the space or is it to hide and spend my entire lifetime fearing the risk of being lost and waiting for my turn to reduce to dust like that star just did? After few days of self-questioning and reasoning, I decided to step out of my comfort zone and try to see and experience what it is like to live and shine in the sky. I have always known and seen that the sky does have a lot of shades. It is not always dark and thundering. It is also blue and welcoming, orange and warm, white and soothing. And finally, one day I moved out of my safe spot and came out into the sky to shine with all my might and to spread all my light. My fellow stars didn’t appreciate my move and advised me to come back to my very own space where I was safe and without fear. But I couldn’t heed to their words because I liked the way I appeared to the world. I liked the feeling of fearlessness. I liked the feeling of being noticed. Yes, finally I was living and I liked the newly gained life. It felt nice and worth living a life without fear.”

As the star unfolded the story behind being the brightest and the bravest star in the whole dark sky, I could see the moon smiling as well. It was feeling proud to share the sky with a star like this who deserves to be noticed for being brave, strong and fearless. Now I see and now I know that some risks are worth taking.