Thursday, 1 December 2016

A Letter to Would-be-Husband

Dear Would-be-Husband,

We are just a few days away from becoming life partners. In these few days of knowing each other, we couldn’t get much opportunity to open up and discuss all that we wanted to. But at least from those few interactions, I could decide that I can spend the rest of my life happily with you.

Just like how every girl goes through this phase of transition from being her daddy’s little girl to someone’s wife, every guy also goes through this and is worried about accepting the many changes that would take place. I totally understand how you feel right now and can relate to you. So all I want to tell you is, we can make a good couple and make each other comfortable if we start our journey as friends. Friendship is one such relation which doesn’t have anything to do with expectations or explanations. So, I feel this would help us in making our journey easy and smooth going.

I heard from my friends that most men are usually worried about one thing before marriage, that is about the bonding that will form between his mother and his wife. I know it’s mostly due to these daily soaps that men fall in such dilemma. But trust me, it doesn’t happen in real life. At least I can assure you that it won’t happen in our case. I have always been very close to my mom. She is my best friend. I have always, since my childhood, seen how my mom and my grandmother have lived together under the same roof for years, without any disputes. They are always happy in each other’s company and they compliment each other very well. Their never-ending conversations, the tasty food they prepare together, the way they support each other in times of difficulty, all these have influenced me greatly. I long for having such a healthy and amazing relationship with your mom. When I leave my home and my mom and come to your home, I wish to make your home, our home and your mom, our mom.

At home, we have a lovely family time every evening when we all sit together and sip hot tea and munch some hot pakoras that both Mom and I prepare together. We have those silly conversations of an imaginative farm house surrounded with paddy fields or buying a ferry and going on a voyage for a long break. This is the best time of the day when we forget about all the worries and relax for a while. I wish to have such bonding with my new family as well, where I can sit and have nice conversations with my in-laws and other family members.

I always wanted to have a big joint family like the one in the movie “Hum Saath Saath Hain” and so that’s one of my favorite movies. I know it is not possible to have such big families in this generation but we can have a cute little family where we, your parents and our kids can stay together and have a wonderful bonding. I believe it is essential to teach kids that family is what will stay with us in all phases of life, good and bad, ups and downs. Family encourages us, protects us yet never becomes judgmental. 

Today as I write to you of what I look forward to in our relationship, I also want to tell you what all I wish to do to make our relationship better and everlasting. As we move forward together in life, we will see and experience many things. Every person faces difficulties at some point in time. I promise I will be with you to support and encourage you and help you swim through it. I promise I will share both your sorrows and joys equally. I will be with you to cry in your pains and also celebrate your success. I promise there won’t be anything like “your” and “mine”, I will treat everything to be “ours”. I promise I will never let you down and will put all my best efforts in leading a peaceful and prosperous life with you.

I am not sure if I can prove to be the best wife ever but I can promise you that I will always put effort to become one. Living with an ideal couple like my Mom and Dad, one thing that I have learnt from them is, having trust and coordination will always make a relationship stronger and fruitful. This is definitely what I yearn to have in our lives as well.

There are yet a lot of things that I want to share with you. But we still have a lifetime to spend together and so I will unfold them slowly. I am looking forward to having an amazing and exciting time with you and your family.

With love,

Your Would-be-Wife